1. Rushing Into The Planning Process
You've found your person, have had your "Yes!" moment, and have a beautiful ring sparkling on your left hand... You're engaged!! While your initial reaction might be to jump on your wedding Pinterest board that you have had for months, don't rush the process! Take some time to enjoy your engagement before the official wedding planning begins so that you don't start your engagement with stress and pressure.
2. Saying "Yes" To Every Offer
After you get engaged, family and friends will reach out to you with their suggestions, advice, and help based on their own wedding planning experience. Maybe they have a referrals for a vendor that they loved or want to warn you about a bad experience that they had, which is great information to know because they were in your shoes once. However, make sure to not say "yes" to all of the suggestions coming your way. While your family and friends truly have the best intentions for you and want you to have an incredible wedding planning experience, the suggestions they make might not be in line with the vision that you have for your wedding.
3. Skipping The "Logistics" Conversation
Once you are engaged, there are often lots of conversations that need to happen, especially with family, on the logistics of the wedding your planning. While this isn't normally put into the "fun" category of wedding planning, it will lead to a smoother wedding planning process to have all of the information put on the table from everyone involved. The conversations that fall into the "logistics" category include budget, who (if anyone) is contributing to the cost, the guest list, and any religious or cultural practices that need to be observed during the ceremony and reception. Knowing all of this information will help guide your wedding planning process to from start to finish.
4. Putting Your Venue Before Your Guest List
Almost every wedding blog or planning forum will put selecting your venue near the top, if not the top, of your wedding planning to do list. However, we always suggest creating at least an initial draft of your wedding guest list before selecting venues to visit. The reality of wedding planning is that there will be venues you love that cannot accommodate a large guest list or venues you love who have a minimum your guest list does not meet. Knowing your guest list before hand will help you select a venue that does not make your guests feel like sardines in a small venue or like no one showed up to your wedding in a large one.
5. Racking Up Your Credit Card
It is no secret that weddings come with a hefty price tag. Even if you are looking at a more budget-friendly wedding, it is still more money than you spend for any other event or party. With the multiple wedding professionals and details that it takes to plan a wedding, it can be easy to think of just putting it on your credit card and paying it off overtime. However, when you have not set a budget or discussed what price you are willing to pay for different services, putting it all on your credit card can become a slippery slope.
6. Make Your Life All About Your Wedding
Planning your wedding and getting married are two huge milestones in your life, so it is not hard to see how it can put a lot on your plate. However, it is important to have priorities outside of your wedding so that you can take a step back and enjoy the process without letting it overwhelm you. Often the more controlling you are the most stressed you get. Your wedding vendors are wedding professionals and have been to countless weddings. They have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly, and it is their job to take the stress off of your plate so that you can enjoy your wedding and the beginning of your marriage.
We hope you enjoyed these tips on things NOT to do after you get engaged. For more tips or to schedule your free consultation, contact us today at 661.257.1725 or firstname.lastname@example.org. Let the J&M Experience begin!